Mar 19 2014
Cycles
It’s not about menstrual cycles, but the cycles that subs have!
A sub reported to me the following: I go through these cycles of guilt and regret and once I tribute to some online Domme, I feel bad and I close my email account and decided never do it again, only I come back couple of weeks later, and find myself doing it again. I think you must have been familiar with this kind of pattern among your subs as it’s not uncommon, based on my findings.
sub, these cycles you have, I’m used to it, most are ashamed having those submissive feelings. After a session, they praise me and are thankful to have lived such experience but once home they swear they will not repeat, but after an amount of time, they all come back, and it’s okay, and I will open my arms to them again!
Many don’t go back to the same Domme because of shame, or any other reasons, (like afraid to be seen at such place) and it’s usually those subs who will complain and feel unfulfilled most of the time and give bad reviews. With one visit, how can you gel and have a fulfilling relationship with any Domme? Even with over 20 visits with the same Domme, for many subs, the cycle of regret and shame is omnipresent, why denying? It’s your nature, born to serve!
Frank
Mar 23, 2014 @ 14:48:15
So true, and I so go through these cycles, but I never blame the dommes for it
MsCathie
Mar 23, 2014 @ 14:50:25
I will certainly like to hear what goes in your mind, not only from you but also will like to hear from other subs
Anonymous
Mar 21, 2014 @ 19:02:21
This is so true Mistress, the guilt of being naughty and slutty after a visit with you, and I know it’s not wrong, but why all this guilt, I have fantasies, and I want to explore them. I don’t want to wait until I’m old and sick and not capable any more. You often write: “Enjoy now because tomorrow we don’t know what could happen”. You really know how to transform this little shy boy in me to the sluttiest of all! So grateful to have you to turn to for my despicable acts !
MsCathie
Mar 21, 2014 @ 20:13:58
There is no age to act out your fantasies, my oldest sub is 82, and living it at the fullest! But you can be healthy, top shape that you never have been and your doctor found you something. Those stories we hear a lot. It happened to few of my subs. One sub I have in mind, top shape, feeling well, had a brain tumor outside of his skull of the size of a golf ball, got it removed, and 10 years later, it came back but this time it was inside his skull, got it removed, luckily for him he is still alive and lives like there is no tomorrow. He owns nothing, no car, no house, no phone, no debts, and of course no wife, and has never been happier!
The other sub got into a car accident, got checked by the doctor, his blood pressure was 200/105, Doc sent him home, came to see me 2 weeks later told me about his “bad day”, truck wrecked and his high blood pressure, I checked him with my monitor and it was still 200/105, I told him: How come the doctor sent you home without a prescription? You must still be stressed out of this accident! You should be dead by now, or soon! He said he feels good, I said it’s called the silent killer not for nothing! I urged him to see his Dr. got a prescription, came to see me 2 weeks later, checked his blood pressure again, and it was 190/105, still too high, went back to Dr. He phoned me lately and told me it is now 140/ I don’t think this sub realizes how lucky that he did not have a stroke…yet! I probably saved his life by giving him shit to seek medical attention ASAP. These numbers are still high but manageable if he changes his diet, which I doubt! The magic pills!
Last year another sub was under Dr. surveillance for his high blood pressure, but told me everything is under control, I checked him he was at 193/— he freaked out, said my monitor was malfunctioning, I checked myself and no it wasn’t, we re-checked after session, and it lowered to 187/— so another guy I probably saved his life, but never thanked me and never came back, maybe he is dead? so for now on, I will not check anyone who says that he had high blood pressure but now everything is under control, unless we are playing nurse and patient scenario. I’m starting to think that I’m the cause of their high blood pressure 😈
Anonymous
Mar 24, 2014 @ 00:37:18
You really care about your subs with their health! I thought Dominatrixes were heartless 😉
MsCathie
Mar 24, 2014 @ 00:39:18
I’m heartless, I just don’t want them to die in my arms. 😉 Prevention! I want them to come back! Probably they get too excited in my presence! What do you think? Should I check if a sub says he is taking medication for his blood pressure or should I not check?
rtkink
Mar 28, 2014 @ 18:06:47
I personally know a female Dominant with a sub she started doing “heel trampling” sessions with him, a lot on his chest. He kept asking her for more of a stomp, than just pure walking on him. One day he started having serious discomfort inside his chest. She had to call the paramedics and after they got there, hooked him up to monitors, it showed some evident heart problems. As it turns out, that sub already knew he had previous problems, but he never disclosed that info to his Mistress. She immediately ended any and all future requests for any kind of vigorous play with him.
MsCathie
Mar 28, 2014 @ 23:45:49
Thanks for sharing! What a smart woman, I would to the same! call paramedics, I will never cut you in pieces and put you in a bag. So you are telling me I should check their blood pressure if they tell me they have that problem, but men are too proud to disclosure their health problem. I do have a client who I kick boxing him on his chest and stomach, I know he can take it, he has a flat stomach, I don’t see myself doing this on someone who has a beer belly.